The end of another school year is upon us, rather suddenly. The Girl Child graduates from pre-school tomorrow. I plan to attend. I will try not to cry too much. I will probably fail in that. But that's tomorrow. Yesterday was the last day of school for the Boy Child. He's finished his 2's program, his first year of school. I'm not sure that he grasps the idea that he won't have "Toni Class" any more. I am told that Toni, his teacher, was a mess yesterday, crying all over the place. The Boy Child was her favorite, or so she told us when she told us that, "you know, we're are not allowed to have favorites, ahem."
I had the kids on my bed last night for story reading, just the three of us. We often do that. After we finished reading, I gathered the Boy Child into my arms and spoke to him. I told him that I was so proud of him for finishing his first year of school. He asked me why so I elaborated. I told him that he learned so much, that he came to school barely speaking and now he speaks so beautifully, that he went to school in diapers and now wears underpants, that he learned how to play with others, how to do arts and crafts, how to sit for story time, how to celebrate Shabbot, and how to be his own little guy. The Girl Child then said that I would be prouder of her when she graduates and I gently told her that right now we were talking about the Boy Child and how much we loved him and how we were proud of him and she agreed that she was proud of him, too. Tomorrow, I told her, would be her day, and she was ok with that.
I then told him that he learned to be more independent. That when he started, he used to get so sad and cry and have to go out on the playground so the Girl Child could give him a hug and I asked him if he remembered this? He did and so did the Girl Child. And now, I told him, he doesn't have to do that and that in and of itself was a nice big change. He liked hearing about that and he and I and the Girl Child talked about it for a little bit.
He is such a beautiful little boy and when I told him that I loved him and that I was so proud of him, he glowed so bright he was practically incandescent. The Girl Child and I sat there and cuddled with him and basked in his happiness.
I still feel it now, so I decided to write about it.
Posted by Random Penseur at May 31, 2006 10:56 AM | TrackBackThe incandescence of a toddler child. I wish we could bottle it up and keep it for when they're 18.
*snif*
Beautiful post, my dear.
Posted by: Margi at May 31, 2006 01:22 PMRP, a few years ago a friend of mine told me in all seriousness, "I learned everything I needed to know in kindergarten". I was fascinated by that statement. And this post brought me back in a touching way to that same fascination. (Apparently there is a published work with this title but I have never read it and don't know who the author is but without reading it, I now know that statement is definitely fact.) RP, your son might almost be glowing with incandescence, but you are casting a visible radiance as well (and just now, I swear I heard a couple of buttons POP!) Congrats on all the joy and successes of your wee ones.
Posted by: Roberta S at June 1, 2006 01:21 AM