November 17, 2006

Breast cancer operation a success, we think

Thank you all for your kind comments and supportive emails. I've read everything, be assured, even if I have not had the time to reply or respond.

I have not felt much like writing this week, truth be told.

My mom's surgery was a complete success, or so we have been informed. She is cancer free at this point and must undergo chemo as a prophylactic measure.

Monday was a long day. I spent most of it with my father who was and remains a bit of a basket case. We took a lot of walks around the grounds while my mother was under the knife. He told me that he did not know what he would do, how he would live, without her, that they had grown up together. I was a little taken aback because, well, my dad, well, let's just say I have never heard him speak this way about my mother. He also reflected on the relationship he has with my sister and the relationship he had with my now deceased maternal grandfather, who he says he knew for a longer time than he did his own father. We talked about my uncles and the family business we are trying to run. It was a long day, as I said.

I got to spend an hour and a half alone with my mother, chatting, after she came up from recovery. She tolerated the procedure remarkably well.

Now, of course, her spirits are a bit low as she says she is mourning the loss of her body part. I take a contrary view. I have told her that we should be celebrating the gain not mourning a loss, that she now has a second shot at life. I keep trying to convince her of this.

When Tuesday came, I was drained and exhausted. I had to stay late in the City for a Board of Directors' meeting. Of course, the train broke down on the way home.

Wednesday, still exhausted. My mom is released from the hospital, though. We had the Girl Child's parent-teacher conference. She is a "delight; an adept and rapid learner". We learn, on Thursday, that after the conference, the teacher's husband died that night.

Wednesday, I also learn that I have become a focal point of controversy at the Club where I have been a member for some 15 years and which I love very much. That is a shock. The support I have received is overwhelming and the critics, who went way too far, are on the short end of an investigation which likely will result in the termination of their membership for failing to act like gentlemen. Upsetting but uplifting as people have flocked to my defense.

Thursday, what about Thursday? Oh yeah, that was cool. I had a tour of an architectural masterpiece from the CEO of the Fortune 100 corporation headquartered in the building. Then the CEO and I had a private lunch in his private dining room. That was an interesting experience.

And now Friday and I am happy to look forward to a weekend with my family as I recover from my attempt to run for 30 minutes on the treadmill today to burn out some of the stress I am feeling. Running is not a good idea for your knees; unless you are being chased.

Pax tibi!

Posted by Random Penseur at November 17, 2006 04:01 PM | TrackBack

hang in there my friend.

Posted by: caltechgirl at November 17, 2006 06:12 PM


Glad the op went well.

Posted by: Mia at November 17, 2006 06:19 PM

Still thinking good thoughts.

; )

Posted by: Christina at November 17, 2006 08:07 PM

I'm glad to hear the operation went well. Your family is in my thoughts.

Posted by: nic at November 17, 2006 10:53 PM

Glad to hear you're doing well and that your mom is cancer free. Will continue to think happy thoughts and say prayers.

As always if there's anything can do let me know.

Posted by: phin at November 18, 2006 12:19 AM

Glad to hear the surgery went well.

My thoughts and prayers remain with you and your family. One day at a time. If that seems daunting, 15 minutes at a time.


Posted by: Wicked H at November 19, 2006 11:27 AM

You've been in my thoughts these past days as you and your family have gone through this difficult time.

Give your mother time, she has to go through her grieving process before she can hear what you're saying and appreciate the wisdom.

Posted by: Jocelyn at November 19, 2006 11:47 PM

Good to hear your mother went through the surgery well.

Isn't it amazing how crisis brings people together? People start talking about things previously unspoken, it's so unfortunate that we need crisis to trigger communication.

Be well, RP.

Posted by: Oorgo at November 20, 2006 11:35 AM

Hang in there, RP! Good for you for continuing to work out in these times of stress.

Posted by: grammarqueen at November 20, 2006 01:09 PM

Thinking good thoughts and sending them your way in droves. I hope you have a peace and gratitude filled, Thanksgiving holiday, RP.

Posted by: Jennifer at November 20, 2006 03:12 PM


I hope things turn out for the best for your Mom, your Dad, and the whole family.

And, as an get to do some of the coolest stuff I've ever heard of. Dining, one on one, with the CEO of a Fortune 100 corporation. Now that is just awesome.

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